A woman working at Shoprite is independent. A man working at Shoprite is broke. This double standard is real but before men start blaming women for this, they need to ask: "Who set that system up?"

Orlando Stadium in Soweto holds 40,000 people. Every single person in that stadium represents a woman who was raped in South Africa in a single year and that is only the reported cases. The real number is far worse.

A video recently went viral of a man proudly showing off his dinner, joking that he's eating cereal for dinner because he hasn't paid lobola yet. The implication is clear. Once a woman is in the picture, she'll handle the cooking. It's meant to be funny but it really isn't.

A certain corner of the internet has convinced men that a woman's sexual history chemically destroys her ability to form meaningful relationships. They call it "pair bonding theory." They use terms like oxytocin. It sounds authoritative but science doesn't support it.