GENDER & SOCIETY · SOUTH AFRICA
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WOMEN DON'T HAVE AN EXPIRY DATE BUT THE MEN WHO SAY SO MIGHT
Claiming that women "expire" after 35 only makes sense if you accept the premise that women are products that exist to be chosen, used, and discarded. It is a pathetic display of male insecurity dressed up in scientific language and the actual science tells a very different story.
WHAT BIOLOGY ACTUALLY SAYS
WHAT BIOLOGY ACTUALLY SAYS
Women can conceive and give birth well into their mid-40s. That is a biological fact. What is equally biological and conveniently left out of these conversations is that male fertility declines too. Sperm quality deteriorates with age. Testosterone levels drop. The idea that men are immune to the biological clock they weaponise against women is simply not true.
Men do not age like fine wine. They just convinced themselves they do.
WHAT WOMEN ACTUALLY GAIN WITH AGE
WHAT WOMEN ACTUALLY GAIN WITH AGE
An older woman is not a diminished woman. She is a sharper woman. With age comes wisdom, stronger intuition, emotional intelligence and perhaps most importantly, a much lower tolerance for behaviour that does not serve her. She becomes more confident, more discerning and far less available to be manipulated by men who offer very little.
That is not expiration. That is evolution. And it terrifies a certain kind of man.
THE "MEN GET RICHER WITH AGE" ARGUMENT FALLS FLAT
THE "MEN GET RICHER WITH AGE" ARGUMENT FALLS FLAT
The fallback defence is always money... the idea that men become more desirable as they age because they accumulate wealth. In theory, fine. In practice, most men will not become wealthy. In a country like South Africa, with some of the highest inequality rates in the world, that fantasy is exactly that... just a fantasy. Many men banking on financial status to compensate for everything else are going to find reality extremely uncomfortable.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Women can still conceive and give birth into their mid-40s.
Male fertility also declines with age, poor sperm quality and falling testosterone are real biological facts, not opinions.
Women gain wisdom, confidence, and emotional intelligence with age — that is growth, not decline.
The "men get wealthier" argument is a fantasy for most men, especially in high-inequality countries like South Africa.
Women are not products with expiry dates and the men pushing that narrative are usually the ones with the least to offer.
Disclaimer:
I am not your therapist, attorney, or doctor. I cannot diagnose you, represent you, prescribe anything, or replace professional support. What I can offer in good faith is a thoughtful perspective from someone who understands the social, cultural, and political landscape most of us are navigating in South Africa, without judgment, without an agenda, and without compensation.
27 Apr 2026 | 2 min read
A man shouts at his wife that the children are her responsibility, not his because he has to go to work. Nobody bats an eye. Flip that script for one second and imagine what would happen if a mother said the same thing.
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